“Telling a true story about personal experience is not just a matter of being oneself, or even of finding oneself. It is also a matter of choosing oneself.”
~ Harriet G Lerner
At the Singapore Facilitators Conference in Nov 2010, together with a fellow facilitator/friend, Wendy Wong; I co-facilitated a workshop presentation that blended our common interests in Story and Visual Language. Being a meaning-making device for a meaning-making species, Story is deeply embedded in our very existence and psyche. From Homerian epics to Scandinavian sagas to 140-word Twitter ‘tweets’ to Japanese haikus, Story has been and is the archetypal container for philosophies, perspectives and world-views. Out of the many incidents that happen to us, we only choose some and string them together as a story that makes sense for us.
2 key aspects of Story form the basis of our offering. Story, when told, reaffirms the truth of the story-teller’s experience to himself, regardless of whether listeners believe in it. In that sense, Story becomes the story-teller; a chosen story can become something that dominates the story-teller’s thinking and identity.
The second aspect is that Story can be re-authored, that is, to be re-modified with new layers of meaning. The re-authoring process gives individuals the possibility of revisiting circumstances that were omitted previously from the stories and bringing in new detail (eg an overlooked decision point) that could potentially transform the very stories which have become a part of the story-teller.
Based on these 2 principles, we wanted to give our fellow facilitators an opportunity to make new sense and meaning from what was in their minds, a negative facilitation experience. We wanted them to re-process a negative facilitation experience, that it was NOT something inherently wrong about the tools they were using nor that they had made mistakes in their design and tool selection, and of course, not because they were intrinsically ‘bad’ facilitators.
Wendy’s experience with Visual Language gave us an opportunity to invite participants to tell their stories in graphical form; using 3 possible ways:
1. a simplified Quest,
2. Metaphor and
3. Framework (I can’t locate a framework online that is directly relevant to a facilitator’s growth but the Quality of Success Loop comes to mind as an example of a framework).
Workshop participants were then asked to reflect on their Negative Story and to identify elements which when changed, would have allowed them to arrive at the originally intended outcomes. Their Preferred Alternate Stories had to contain at least one such element.
Each participant was able to share in plenary that they were able to discover Positive Harvests even from Negative experiences; experiences that they may have previously dismissed as mistakes or mis-steps. Negative Stories were no longer wholly Negative, but held the seeds of new thinking and possibilities.
Noel E K Tan